by Janelle Legge | Apr 27, 2014 | Relationships
Are you struggling to attract the right partner? If you are, then it most likely comes down to 2 things – low self worth in your relationships and not being clear on what it is that you want.
And if you’re totally fed up and over finding love hard work and just not happening for you, that means you’re ready to release the toxic and addictive love patterns that have been tripping you up.
Here are 3 potent and proven steps you can take to find love that lasts:
3 Essential Steps to Finding Love
1. Get Clear On What You’re Looking For
One of the most common blocks to attracting the right partner is not being clear on the qualities and values you’re looking for in someone else. If you’re not clear on what you want, then you’re putting out unclear, confusing messages to the universe, so guess what you attract? Anything and everything. It’s a random selection process that doesn’t get you far. You’ll most likely attract people who don’t want to commit to you beyond the first couple of dates because you’re not clear on what it is that you want. Maybe this is what you’ve been experiencing?
Knowing what you want, and owning it, is what attracts quality people to you with healthy self esteem.
2. Know Your Value And Worth
You need to be the type of person you’re wanting to attract. This is probably not what you wanted to hear, right? But it’s how it really works. In healthy relationships, peers attract peers. So your life needs to be in order and happening. You’re more likely to attract someone who’s interesting and has it all together when you’re feeling good about yourself and are out doing the things that you love. You’re going for high self worth from now on.
Don’t fall into the Hollywood script fantasy of waiting around for someone to rescue you. That’s wishful thinking, and not realizing your own potential.
3. Make Daily Decisions That Support What You Want
To magnetize what you want, it always comes down to who you’re being every single day. Are you tolerating things that go against your values? Are you not speaking up for what you want, what you need and what you really believe? Are your actions and words matching your deepest wishes and desires?
Your inner image needs to match and support what you’re wanting to create on the outside. This is important because over 90% of communication is non-verbal. Other people quickly work out how much you value, or don’t value, yourself and treat you accordingly. It happens in all of your relationships – in your personal life, family and in your business and career.
It’s your repetitive daily thoughts and actions that determine what you attract into your present and future life. It’s making the law of attraction work for you. Because you know you deserve better.
by Janelle Legge | Mar 18, 2014 | Wellbeing
Intuition is one of the most powerful tools to success you have. So why is it that so many women don’t listen to it, or trust it?
If you’re not listening to your intuition, then it’s time to see your intuitive powers in a new light.
Just about every successful person on the planet will tell you that trusting their intuition, or ‘gut instincts’, has been one of the most important keys to their success. They view it as their number one secret weapon. It’s what has enabled them to stand out from the pack in their chosen field and build a personally meaningful and rich life.
What usually gets left out of this ‘secret to success formula’ is that your intuition needs to be cultivated and grown, just like any other skill, in order to be effective. It requires the right kind of environment so it can flourish and thrive.
Below is my Intuition Health Check to help you get your Intuition back on track and into top form:
7 Signs That Your Intuition Is Being Neglected
- You’re constantly over-tired and don’t get enough sleep.
- Your energy is scattered so you can’t focus for long on anything.
- You don’t trust yourself, which manifests as self-doubt.
- You don’t believe in yourself or your greater potential.
- You listen to everyone else’s opinions instead of your own which leaves you feeling overwhelmed and confused.
- You’ve been ignoring your intuition for so long – it’s now giving you the silent treatment.
- You don’t meditate or set aside alone time to check in with yourself and your intuitive guidance.
How did you score? If you can identify with any of the above, then your intuition could do with a health boost. Select the areas that you feel most need your attention, and start creating the right conditions for your intuitive guidance to become strong and clear.
Knowing how to use your intuition wisely is one of the best kept secrets to personal and business success. It’s your reliable inner guide system to living a confident and meaningful life.
by Janelle Legge | Dec 4, 2013 | Mindfulness for Success
When you can’t change a situation your challenge, and opportunity for self empowerment and growth, lies in looking at how you can change your thinking. It’s shifting your focus to what you can influence and releasing what you can’t.
It’s about opening up new possibilities and ways of responding. Replacing limbic brain knee jerk reactions and feelings of disempowerment with better insight, strategy, and awareness.
The key to this is deciding to not waste time and energy on people or situations you cannot directly influence. Choosing instead to focus on the areas where you do have influence. Stephen Covey writes about this in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He calls this focusing on the Circle of Influence. And when you apply this principle your focus becomes clear and proactive. You’re instantly re-empowered.
Success oriented people focus their efforts on what they can influence. They also know it’s what keeps them energized, proactive and optimistic, regardless of what life throws at them.
Start focusing on your circles of influence and watch how it changes your life and results in profound ways.
