Defeating Negative Self Talk: How To Free Yourself

Defeating Negative Self Talk: How To Free Yourself

Are you sick and tired of negative self talk that at times just seems to go on and on relentlessly inside your head? You know, the critical and dismissive negative voice that picks everything (including you) apart, and is never satisfied. Ever.

If you’re ready to send your negative self talk off on a permanent vacation, then you’re in the right place. Because I’m going to share with you one of my most deft manoeuvres for outsmarting and defeating negative self talk once and for all. Mastering this skill is a total game-changer.

But first of all let’s look at what absolutely doesn’t work when you’re wanting to break free from negative self talk:

1.  Trying to debate your negative self talk – and win

trying to debate with negative self talk and win

This is a common tactic. But trying to debate and argue back with negative self talk to show it who’s really the boss is an ineffective and pointless exercise. It’s a bit like trying to win an argument with a highly opinionated, “know it all”. And when you fall into this trap, the arguments become circular, more and more irrational and ridiculous, and go no where.

2. The “I’m not listening to you” approach

Trying to ignore negative self talk

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Trying to ignore negative self talk and replace it with sweet positive thoughts instead doesn’t work for very long either. As just about everyone who’s tried this finds out. Negative thoughts are simply more powerful and usually win in the end. Often doing this just makes them come back even stronger. And they’ll totally shoot down and crush the positive thoughts you’ve tried to embrace instead.

So why don’t these tactics work?

Because negative self talk is driven in part by your lizard brain that’s been primed to only see danger and threat. It’s primary job is to keep you alive and safe. But it hates change and especially risks, no matter how well calculated – seeing them as potential threats. And it’s this part of your brain that totally backs and supports all of those subconscious self-limiting, negative beliefs you’ve absorbed from other people and your tribe as a child.

In fact around 90% of your negative self talk doesn’t even belong to you, or the reality you’re in. It’s been shaped and formed in a different time and place. So if your ancestors lived through difficult times, negative self talk, and a lack of optimism, can become a way of coping with life. It helps justify how bad and disappointing life and other people can be. Negative self talk usually masks feelings of powerlessness to be able to change the course of your life.

But that’s not you. Right. You’re living in different times.

Defeating Negative Self Talk – Fast

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Okay, so let’s get to the fun part. We’re going to send your negative self talk on a long, well deserved vacation. After all, it’s been working day and night, often going all out to keep you stuck in exactly the same place.

Because this is your time, your life, and it’s time to leave the old version of your inherited ‘negative self talk’ behind.

Now this is going to sound counterintuitive, but hang in there because it works.

The fastest and most effective way to outsmart negative self talk and send it on it’s way is to “thank it” for it’s input. You need to imagine that the part of you that’s driving your negative self talk, actually thinks it’s being helpful and keeping you safe. It doesn’t want you to make any kind of change that will take you beyond where you’re at now – which is the only reality that it knows. And optimistic, expansive thinking leading to a bigger, more exciting version of your life is its nemesis.

So you need to give this part of you some recognition and validation. That’s right. The next time your negative self talk chimes in, you need to dialogue internally with it as if you’re talking to a well-meaning relative or friend. Graciously and politely thank it for all of it’s opinions, and negative cynical advice. After all, it’s just doing it’s job, right.

Then watch what happens next. Silence. Pause. There’s no back-chat, or counter arguments with the usual circular and repetitive scripts going on inside your head. Your negative self talk has suddenly gone all quiet. You can think clearly again, and move forward.

So start thanking your negative self talk and then just feel it melt away. Doing this consistently will bring you more freedom, wellbeing, and optimism, and change your life in powerful ways.

© 2015 Janelle Legge

 

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Are You Sabotaging Your Happiness With Faulty Thinking Patterns?

Are You Sabotaging Your Happiness With Faulty Thinking Patterns?

Are you constantly other and outer focused?  One of the biggest roadblocks to happiness and success I see people struggle with is being constantly focused on what they imagine other people have, do, or think.

What I often refer to as the ‘compare and despair’ or ‘grass is always greener’ syndrome is keeping women unhappy, inauthentic, and feeling isolated.  This type of repetitive thinking is toxic to your self esteem, identity, and self-worth.

When you’re trapped in this kind of faulty globalizing thinking pattern everyone else is happier, more successful, luckier, gets everything they want and lives happily ever after.  Even when reality glaringly points out otherwise!

This is because you are so fused with this faulty thinking pattern you can’t see the abundance and good already in your life, or what’s possible for you.

And it’s not only hurting you, it’s keeping you stuck and playing small.

So what’s behind this type of thinking?

If you’ve been stuck in these repetitive ‘compare and despair’ cycles just be aware that your subconscious mind will probably not like what I’m about to share, and will try and get you to reject it.

Here’s 2 reasons why:

  1. Your subconscious mind is designed to keep you exactly where you are. It will do everything it can to stop you moving in a direction that it perceives to be threatening because it is new and different to what you have always done.
  2. ‘Compare and despair’ thinking is a form of avoidance and distraction from getting on with what you need to be doing to have the things you really desire. It’s stopping you from taking responsibility for the choices you have made, and the results you currently have in your life.

At a core level, these subconscious beliefs and fears are driven by low self esteem, not knowing your value, or not believing deep down that you can get what you want. Somewhere in your past you’ve had experiences that made you feel not good enough, not worthy enough, or wrong in some way.

 

3 Powerful Steps to Break This Cycle

 

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  1. Get into the present moment, now.  Staying fused with negative repetitive self talk and old stories keeps you stuck in the past, anxious about the future and not in the Now. It’s actually not possible to be in the present moment and feel anxious or fearful at the same time.
  2. Stop trying to fill every spare minute. Less is often more. Stop, be quiet, connect to your inner wisdom and divine guidance and just listen. Learn to follow your own inner compass.
  3. Practice daily gratitude.   Energy follows thought, what you put out comes back to you. So if your focus is constantly on what you don’t have, can’t have, will never have … guess what you will get more of. That’s right, exactly what you don’t want.

By solving these self-sabotaging patterns you’re going to find yourself moving towards what’s right for you – which is what always brings you more happiness, abundance and success.

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50 Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes To Help You Live A Happier Life

50 Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes To Help You Live A Happier Life

If you’re looking for practical and insightful quotes to live a better more healthier and happier life, then you’ve come to the right place. Here are the best 50 inspirational Deepak Chopra quotes about love, happiness, relationships, healing and change. Deepak Chopra is one of the best known holisitic health and spiritual growth leaders of our time. As you know, there’s no shortage of inspirational, life-changing quotes by Deepak. But we decided to separate the wheat from the chaff and give you the absolute cream of the crop. Whether you’re just feeling a bit down in the dumps or blue, or you’re looking for some daily, positive inspiration, these life-changing tips give you the motivation and stimulus you need to live your best life everyday.

I’ve sorted the quotes into 6 categories so that you can go straight to the ones that interest you the most:

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Love Quotes

“Total self acceptance is empowering. It means allowing others to see you as they choose, without being offended.” Deepak Chopra  (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on self love

Image by Anna Hamilton “The most good you can do for yourself spiritually is to live your life with total love, conviction, and purpose.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)
Inspiring quotes on love Deepak Chopra

Inspiring quotes on love Deepak Chopra

Image by Grant Molver “Love doesn’t need reason. It speaks from the irrational wisdom of the heart.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

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“Love is what we are in our essence, and the more love we feel in our hearts, the more it will be brought to us.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

50 inspiring deepak chopra quotes to live a happier life

“If we suspend judgment and look to how we can make conscious choices to uplift the situation, we can be sure that we are doing all we can to attract a happier and more harmonious outcome.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring quotes on love Deepak Chopra

“To love and be loved is the most natural expression of our being.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring quotes on love Deepak Chopra

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“Love is the beginning of the journey, its end, and the journey itself.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring love quotes Deepak Chopra

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Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Happiness

“The reason why life is a sleep and dream for most people is because their awareness is caught up with past or future and not with what is.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

“To create a positive lifestyle, cultivate an environment that makes positive choices easy, natural, and fun.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

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“In every perceived failure or setback is the seed of success.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

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“The experience of bliss can be the purest one of all and therefore the closest to God.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

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“Being excited about what we do every day and sharing our gifts with the world is how we cultivate joy and energy.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

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“The goal actually, is to wake up now.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

END THE DAY POSITIVELY

“The main thing to do at the end of the day is to write in a gratitude journal all the things that you are grateful for that happened that day. You will invite even more abundance into your life.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

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“The best work flows from us effortlessly. Allow the gifts of spirit to come to you.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

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“The healthiest response to life is joy.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

“Happiness is the realization of worthy goals, the ability to love and have compassion, and remain connected to your creative center.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on happiness

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Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Relationships

“Don’t hold onto negative feelings by justifying why you are right and someone else is wrong.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on relationships

“Your enemy is your own self in a different uniform.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on relationships

“You are the most important part of the family. Take care of yourself first. Then you’ll be able to take care of everyone else even better.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on relationships

“Instead of looking for the right person become the right person.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on relationships

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“When someone else makes a mistake, it is their responsibility to correct it, but it is your responsibility to handle how you feel about it.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on relationships

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Health

“The brain has a quality referred to as plasticity. The ability to form new neural pathways even into very old age. The brain is fluid, flexible and incredibly adaptable to new experiences.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Health

ON MEDITATION

“If you say you don’t have time to do it once a day, then you’re the one who probably needs it twice a day.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

 Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Health

“Meditation is all about connecting with your soul. Part of maintaining your well-being is taking the time to disconnect from the outside to go within.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on health

“Self-awareness moves us beyond the old, well-worn pathways in the brain that support fixed, unconscious habits.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Health

“The power of a positive self-image plays a vital role in experiencing perfect health.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on health

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Healing

“Rigid belief systems, including skeptism, is signing up for the suppression of curiosity.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

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“The more expanded your sense of self, the more possibilities are released from the level of the soul.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

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“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

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“When we’re passionate about something, we have a positive attitude and embrace each day with a new outlook.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

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FIND FULFILLMENT

“Success is the progressive realization of enjoying good health. Success is the ability to love and have compassion. Success is getting in touch with your creative source. All of these come from your creative source, which in spiritual traditions is the soul.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

MAKE HEALING A PRIORITY

“Healing is the return of the memory of wholeness. Healing, health, whole and holy all mean inclusiveness. Body, mind, spirit, environment, relationships, social interactions are all one wholeness, and you’re a part of that one wholeness.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

“We are born with everything we need for a life of fulfilment and success.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

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“Emotional intelligence grows through perception. Look around at your present situation and observe it through the level of feeling.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

“You have the power to reverse your age.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on healing

“Whatever we focus our attention on will expand in our experience. If we focus on cultivating the higher qualities of love, compassion, joy and peace, they will expand — not only in our own lives, but also into the world beyond.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

 Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes for a happier life

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“Your brain does not manufacture thoughts. Your thoughts shape neural networks.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on Healing

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Higher Consciousness

“The important message of the energy of attraction is in learning to master your choices in the present to create a personal reality that reflects this expanded consciousness.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Higher Consciousness

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“There are worlds of possibility inherent in our consciousness that can facilitate our own transformation. What future have you imagined for yourself?” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Higher Consciousness

 “In the deepest realm of being, is the imagination of ourselves. What is your next evolutionary leap? What are you imagining, (for yourself) right now?” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Higher Consciousness

 “Your very existence is evidence of your innate creativity. In every moment you are co-creating your reality through your thoughts, your intentions, your words and your actions.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Higher Consciousness

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“Challenges are solved by rising to a level higher than the challenge.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

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“What we experience, as a perceptual experience, is not what is. It’s very specific to the nervous system.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Higher Consciousness

“Reality is mind-made.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra Quotes on Higher Consciousness

“The Soul is on a journey through cosmic time, and you can orchestrate your journey through cosmic time, when you have awakened to the bigger reality.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

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TRADE MULTI-TASKING FOR FOCUS

“Mindfulness creates centered awareness. When you do one thing at a time, you’re guaranteed excellent results. If you do too many things simultaneously, it messes up your neural circuits. Focus on one thing at a time.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on Higher Consciousness

“By making a soul connection, your true purpose in life will become the foundation of everything you do.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet) 

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on Higher Consciousness

“Consciousness regulates and becomes the flow of energy and information in your body, your relationships, and your world.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on Higher Consciousness

“When you’re in touch with spirit, you put feeling over results.” Deepak Chopra (Click to Tweet)

Inspiring Deepak Chopra quotes on higher consciousness

Conclusion

You already know how good it feels to come across ideas that lift your spirit and give you hope and renewed focus. The trick is STAYING inspired and optimistic. For attitude and vibe resets, and regular inspirations like these, check out our Facebook page.

So which quotes do you find the most inspiring? Please share your favourites!

Janelle Legge

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How Healthy Is Your Intuition?

How Healthy Is Your Intuition?

Intuition is one of the most powerful tools to success you have. So why is it that so many women don’t listen to it, or trust it?

If you’re not listening to your intuition, then it’s time to see your intuitive powers in a new light.

Just about every successful person on the planet will tell you that trusting their intuition, or ‘gut instincts’, has been one of the most important keys to their success. They view it as their number one secret weapon. It’s what has enabled them to stand out from the pack in their chosen field and build a personally meaningful and rich life.

What usually gets left out of this ‘secret to success formula’ is that your intuition needs to be cultivated and grown, just like any other skill, in order to be effective. It requires the right kind of environment so it can flourish and thrive.

Below is my Intuition Health Check to help you get your Intuition back on track and into top form:

7 Signs That Your Intuition Is Being Neglected

  1. You’re constantly over-tired and don’t get enough sleep.
  2. Your energy is scattered so you can’t focus for long on anything.
  3. You don’t trust yourself, which manifests as self-doubt.
  4. You don’t believe in yourself or your greater potential.
  5. You listen to everyone else’s opinions instead of your own which leaves you feeling overwhelmed and confused.
  6. You’ve been ignoring your intuition for so long – it’s now giving you the silent treatment.
  7. You don’t meditate or set aside alone time to check in with yourself and your intuitive guidance.

How did you score? If you can identify with any of the above, then your intuition could do with a health boost. Select the areas that you feel most need your attention, and start creating the right conditions for your intuitive guidance to become strong and clear. 

Knowing how to use your intuition wisely is one of the best kept secrets to personal and business success.  It’s your reliable inner guide system to living a confident and meaningful life.

 

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